Wednesday, July 23, 2008
Rejecting Jesus
"I'll let my kids make up their own mind"
Wednesday, May 21, 2008
Going to Mass, not Church
Friday, March 28, 2008
Jennifer Graham reviews a book on First Things here.
A piece that jumps out (emphasis mine):
Cultural norms are fluid and malleable, but in a capitalist society they tend to flow away from traditional family life and toward the accumulation of ever more stuff. “The triumph of materialism in modern times feeds the market and leaves childrearing and family life undernourished,” Gilbert writes. “The capitalist ethos underrates the economic value and social utility of domestic labor in family life, particularly during the early years of childhood.”
The “psychic income” that a woman might derive from caring for young children at home is not as tangible as a biweekly direct deposit at her bank. And, according to “prospect theory,” human beings tend to choose a path with a guaranteed outcome over one with potentially greater rewards but a certain amount of risk. Furthermore, while the birth of a child was once considered economic progress for a family, particularly one with a few acres of tobacco to harvest, children now fare poorly on a cost-benefit spreadsheet where psychic income does not count. Modern parenting demands “voluntary sacrifice and altruistic behavior,” not to mention the $153,600 it is estimated to cost to bring up a child today.
Tuesday, March 25, 2008
18 things a grown man should never have
I'm ambivalent about #12. Maybe it's the movies or maybe it's that so many
guys do it, but the overarching point is well taken.
http://www.menshealth.com/cda/article.do?site=MensHealth&channel=guy.wisdom&category=life.lessons&conitem=2c3f60783e998110VgnVCM20000012281eac____
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Frank and The Bucket List
On the surface, it looked like an Odd Couple like buddy movie, but it's not really. The movie really is spiritual.
Morgan Freeman's character Carter Chambers is a smart man, who kind of likes to show it. He was just starting on his way to getting a degree in History, with the goal of becoming a professor, when his wife became pregnant. He dropped out and became a mechanic, never to return. Years later his three children and grandchildren are successful professionals, and his granddaugher, I believe, is an accomplished violinist. He's felt a gap in his life, more acute when he faces terminal illness.
Jack Nicholson is an obnoxious, thrice married and divorced rich man Edward Cole, who can get whatever he wants, except a good diagnosis. So the movie's all about him learning from Carter, right? Family, not money is what's really important, right? Don't be materialist, because you can't take all your money and posessions when you go, right? Edward just needs to appreciate what he has, right? Not quite. The movie goes beyond all of this to the deeper truth.
In modern times there is a temptation to think of yourself as "spiritual", but it's in the Hallmark store knicknack, rose-smelling kind of way. ( I remember a chain email supposedly started by the Dalai Lama that included recommendations like, "Pursue cooking with reckless abandon!" ) That is, it's the error of not being materialistic, and establishing a false dichotomy between the spiritual and materialistic. It's the error of replacing materialism with "experience-ism" for lack of a better word. You know - accumulate as many experiences as possible before you die, get the T-shirts, and sing Frank Sinatra's "My Way" on your deathbed.
It's really not like that. No, the Frank in the title of this post is Frank Capra, the director of "It's a Wonderful Life". I'm not well acquainted with his work but here's a great essay about his spirituality. In The Bucket List, Carter is a modern day George Bailey, and his encounter with Edward affirms his life, as George Bailey's encounter with the angel affirms George's life. In fact, Edward is a more demon than angel - he tempts Carter a few times, and through weathering the temptation Carter comes out stronger and sees things more clearly. Carter realizes that in emptying himself through humble self-sacrifice, he has lived a full life. Thanks to his encounter with Carter, Edward achieves some clarity, and dies with peace.
At the end of our lives, we'll have no satisfaction if we "did it My Way". The way to live is His Way - through humble self sacrifice that is fruitful in ways we can't predict or maybe will never even know, but ways God plans.
By the way the Assistant Director is Frank Capra III.
Thanks to Rod Bennet, because I wouldn't have gotten as much out of the movie if I hadn't read his essay some time ago.